If it’s him with the problem, why do I feel like I’m the one having a break-down?

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How Are You Feeling?

It’s really easy to become so caught up in the stress and drama of your loved one’s alcohol and other drug use, you forget to ask yourself this simple question.

We’ve assembled a list of descriptive words which may illustrate some of the issues and feelings you are dealing with. Click on the words you think best express how you are feeling.

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The stress of dealing with a loved one’s alcohol or other drug use can warp our ability to get a clear perspective on how we are feeling.

We’ve created a bit of a test to help. It’s not really a test in the traditional sense, rather it’s a series of statements to help you think about the emotional effect your loved one’s alcohol or other drug use is having on you.

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What do the following statements mean to you, can you relate?
Tick yes or no in the boxes provided.

Q1 I’m too embarrassed to talk to anyone about his/her alcohol or other drug use.

Yes No

Q2 If only I’d been a better parent none of this would have happened.

Yes No

Q3 I give in to demands for money, it’s easier than saying no.

Yes No

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Q4 Things are going missing from home.

Yes No

Q5 I dread family gatherings because I know his/her behaviour will embarrass me.

Yes No

Q6 I’m scared for the safety of my family.

Yes No

Q7 I’m living in constant fear of a late night phone call.

Yes No

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Q8 I worry about illegal drugs in the house and the police turning up.

Yes No

Q9 I’m sick and tired of cleaning up the messes.

Yes No

Q10 I can’t take any more time off work.

Yes No

Q11 My relationships with other family members are under strain.

Yes No

Q12 The constant stress of his/her alcohol or other drug use is affecting my health

Yes No

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How many questions did you tick yes too?

Problems with alcohol and other drug use within the family can be hard to quantify based on a few questions. Perhaps even ticking yes to one or two of the questions has significant meaning to you in terms of your situation at home. However, in general, you could consider the following scores as a guide. Click here if you feel you need to talk to someone further

If it’s him with the problem, why do I feel like I’m the one having a break-down?

How Are You Feeling?

It’s really easy to become so caught up in the stress and drama of your loved one’s alcohol and other drug use, you forget to ask yourself this simple question.

I’m….

On a roll?

Take the test

The stress of dealing with a loved one’s alcohol or other drug use can warp our ability to get a clear perspective on how we are feeling.

How many questions did you tick yes too?

Your result was

There are some definite concerns for you surrounding your loved one’s alcohol or other drug use.

Your result was

You’ve probably been living the life of a concerned other for some time now and your quality of life is suffering.

Your result was

Things are probably at a crisis point in your life and something needs to change.