We’ve created a bit of a test to help. It’s not really a test in the traditional sense, rather it’s a series of statements to help you think about the emotional effect your loved one’s alcohol or other drug use is having on you.
What do the following statements mean to you, can you relate?Tick yes or no in the boxes provided.
Q1 I’m too embarrassed to talk to anyone about his/her alcohol or other drug use.
Q2 If only I’d been a better parent none of this would have happened.
Q3 I give in to demands for money, it’s easier than saying no.
Q4 Things are going missing from home.
Q5 I dread family gatherings because I know his/her behaviour will embarrass me.
Q6 I’m scared for the safety of my family.
Q7 I’m living in constant fear of a late night phone call.
Q8 I worry about illegal drugs in the house and the police turning up.
Q9 I’m sick and tired of cleaning up the messes.
Q10 I can’t take any more time off work.
Q11 My relationships with other family members are under strain.
Q12 The constant stress of his/her alcohol or other drug use is affecting my health
Problems with alcohol and other drug use within the family can be hard to quantify based on a few questions. Perhaps even ticking yes to one or two of the questions has significant meaning to you in terms of your situation at home. However, in general, you could consider the following scores as a guide.