Kina, Families & Addiction Trust

Sophie's Story

Posted on 29 February 2016 | 2 Comments

Kia ora, 
I live with my partner and I am struggling with his alcohol and meth addiction. The mood swings and all that comes with it can make it hard to live a normal life. I resonate with the video when it was said that the others in the house will visit doctors a lot and have high stress levels. My partner does not seem to think his addiction is an issue. I make excuses for his actions and hide what is truly going on.

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  • Hi Sophie, if you haven't already, I strongly advise you pick up the phone and call the alcohol drug helpline. I did this a couple of months ago because of my husband. I didn't have a plan of what to say, I just wanted to gain more insight about my husband’s P use. The person on the phone was amazing and passed my details on to the specialist meth team, who call me weekly and we just talk. They know so much about meth and have helped me be able to interpret his behaviour better, it has just made everything a lot clearer for me. I think I was a bit lost to his behaviour because I had become so used to it and also he had kind of brain washed me a bit. It has been very helpful to talk to someone and not be ashamed and also to ask any stupid question I want and I have felt less and less stupid and more aware and in control. I have also learnt how dangerous his anger might be and have learnt to be less reactive so that things don't escalate. You really should call. You can't get straight through to the meth team but call the alcohol drug helpline and they'll help you out. I have recently decided I need to leave my husband. He has had numerous extreme bouts of paranoia, all directed at me, so aggressive and hurtful and he also beat someone up. His behaviour is getting worse quite quickly. He's never threatened verbally to hurt me and he's never hit me, if he did I'd be out that very day. But I've realised his behaviour is what is seen as abusive, and this is because of his substance abuse. He is on a downward spiral that will not get better without professional help, or maybe, I hope, with a big shock like me leaving him. I can't keep hurting myself by staying with him, let our kids learn his bad behaviour, and make it easy for him to continue his habits.

    Posted by Danielle, 09/06/2016 10:28am (3 years ago)

  • I hear you. Am going through same thing with one son. The other son has owned his problem and getting help, which is still very slow in coming.....and I am told meth is very hard to get off and stay off. We now have custody of 2 grandchildren ( we are mid to late 60's) not quite the retirement we expected. Please don't cover up for him. We did also, but actually just made things worse as in, the behaviour worsened as the addiction deepened. Take action sooner not later.xx

    Posted by chrisy, 01/05/2016 4:08pm (4 years ago)

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