When my daughter was 16 she was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and started some medication to help her mood stabilise. This was 16 years ago. Over the years she has had different successes and failures with her life ambitions. The medications she took made her shuffle like an old broken spirit. It broke my heart. She had several disastrous relationships and alongside her medications she was smoking marijuana (heavily) using the legal highs when they became available and generally behaving in a nasty way. She would always ask us for money, she never could keep her living environment well. During this time she has given birth to my two lovely mokopuna, who are now 5 and a half and 3 and a half. This is where I come in well and truly as an enabler. I cannot bear to see them miss out on things in life because their Mum wants cigarettes or pot. I feel like I am over a barrel. I never let my daughter miss out on her rights in life and I cannot bear the thought the she would choose a substance over her children. I am so over how I feel. My daughter has decided not to take any of the medications previously prescribed and self medicates with pot. I'm not sure what to do anymore.