My husband has a binge drinking problem.
When he drinks he doesn't come home and doesn't even bother to make any contact with me. This problem has nearly destroyed our relationship numerous times. I never know when he is going to do it next. He has lied so many times saying he is at work and then he turns up at home at 3am drunk as a skunk. He never drinks at home and has never once invited me. He has urinated all over our kitchen table, the bed, and spewed all over our deck. He looses his phone, money cards etc. when he is drunk. Then he is grumpy and depressed for days then he greases up to me saying he is going to change etc…, and then boom! He does it all over again. The cycle goes on and on. I'm not sure what to do! We have tried staying apart from each other, counselling, ignoring it, accepting it- but nothing works. He has had 2 dry spells since we have been married. One for 6 weeks and another for 8 weeks. BUT other than that it's weekly. I never know if he is coming home from work or not. I'm so sick of it and not sure what to do. Every time he says he is going to change and seek help I want to believe him so I give in. And, he will be good for a couple of weeks before the cycle starts again. It's horrible to live with and my life is like a rollercoaster. He has many good qualities but I can't live my life out like this.