I am the wife of a diagnosed alcoholic that has been sober for 44 days. To get to this point I had to pack up and leave him to make him realise that my son and I could not put up with his behavior any longer. He was abusive, moody, and controlled my life. These are all things that he has also identified through his treatment. My partner is in recovery and doing very well and has come a long way, however where is my support. I have chosen to support my husband as he is a good father and good person when he is sober- however, there are underlying behaviour issues that may or may not be related to his addiction. How do you get rid of the feeling of "walking on glass".
I am also thinking of my son’s words- "its easy to forgive mum but you cant forget." I have been through mental abuse, controlling behavior and rape.
When my husband started his journey it was all about him, now he has become self righteous and is turning things around. I will admit that I like to drink but I am now being told that I cannot have a drink at all around him as he cannot cope. This is building up resentment in me as I am not the one that has a problem with alcohol. He accepts that he can’t take anything back that he has done but he is getting all the support and I am wondering where is mine as the victim.